Fully Affirming Kink-Aware Therapy: Professional, Non-Judgmental Support for Sexual Minorities and Kink Lifestyles.

Beyond the Mainstream

For individuals and couples involved in BDSM, fetish, or polyamorous-kink dynamics, finding a therapist who is truly kink-aware, and not just kink-tolerant, is crucial. Too often, kinky and non-monogamous clients face misunderstanding, pathologizing, or judgment from clinicians unfamiliar with these diverse sexual lifestyles.

I am an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT #158068) under the supervision of Melissa Volchock, LMFT #120203 and specialize in providing Kink-Aware Therapy. This means I deeply understand the culture, terminology, ethics (SSC: Safe, Sane, Consensual or RACK: Risk-Aware Consensual Kink, and others), and unique relational dynamics inherent in kink. This is a safe space where your identity is honored and never treated as the problem.

Our work together focuses on addressing the core human challenges like communication, trauma, and relationship stress, within the context of a kink-positive framework.

Focused Support: Issues We May Address

You may not be coming into therapy for your kink identity. If this is the case, I provide a safe, supportive environment that supports and depathologizes your kink identity, you can focus on the issues you need to. The ability to speak freely without having to mask, hide, explain, or educate about your kink identity is freeing and supportive, fostering growth where you need and want it.

If, however, you are seeking emotional support surrounding issues engaging in a kink identity in a nonsupportive world can create, I provide specialized BDSM-affirming counseling and therapy for clients seeking support with:

Challenge Area	How Kink-Aware Therapy Helps
Internalized Shame & Guilt	Processing societal stigma, cultural judgment, and internalized shame surrounding sexual identity and practice.
Negotiation & Boundaries	Mastering the complex skills of negotiation, consent, and dynamic boundary setting required for ethical kink and play.
Relationship Strain	Navigating conflict, jealousy, and power imbalances (top/bottom dynamics) within a kinky relationship structure.
Integrating Kink & Identity	Processing past trauma and ensuring that current practices are safe, ethical, and aligned with personal values.
Navigating the Scene	Addressing social isolation, navigating community dynamics, and managing intersectional issues (e.g., kink combined with neurodivergence).
Disclosure Challenges	Developing strategies for disclosure to partners, family, medical providers, or in professional settings.

An Affirmative Therapeutic Approach 

I am an integrative therapist who draws from multiple evidence-based modalities as needed. I utilize a compassionate and collaborative approaches that promote emotional regulation and relational security, adapted for sexual minorities:

• Affirmative Systemic Lens: Recognizing that stigma and cultural pressure are often the root causes of distress, rather than the kink practice itself.
• Trauma-Informed Care: Providing a safe foundation to explore the intersection of any past emotional or sexual trauma with current power exchange or play dynamics.
• Focus on Communication: Teaching communication techniques essential for safe, successful, and emotionally supportive, kink-based relationships.

The goal is to help you fully integrate your sexual self into your overall well-being, leading to greater confidence, satisfaction, and relational security.

Take the Next Step

Stop wasting time educating a non-specialist therapist. If you are ready for professional support that begins with a foundation of understanding and respect for your lifestyle, contact me today.

Note on AMFT Status: Andrew Robertson is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT #158068) under the supervision of Melissa Volchock, LMFT #120203. This supervised status ensures you receive high-quality, ethically sound, and accountable therapeutic care.

Ready for Therapy That Truly Understands You?

Schedule a confidential consultation to experience specialized Kink-Aware Therapy focused on your goals.