Specialized Polyamory Therapy & ENM Counseling: Supporting Communication, Boundaries, and Security in Non-Monogamous Relationships.

Affirming Your Relationship Structure

Navigating Polyamory, Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), or Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) requires exceptional communication skills, clear boundaries, and a foundation of security and trust. While these relationship structures are rich with potential for connection and growth, they also come with unique challenges that traditional therapy often fails to understand.

I am an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT #158068) under the supervision of Melissa Volchock, LMFT #120203, and strive to provide a fully affirmative, non-judgmental, and specialized space for individuals, couples, and relationship configurations exploring or living in non-monogamous dynamics. My goal is to help you build the tools necessary to sustain multiple fulfilling connections while managing the complexities that naturally arise.

I believe that no one relationship structure is inherently superior, and our work focuses entirely on helping your chosen structure thrive ethically and securely.

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Supporting Your Journey: Common Issues in ENM

Whether you are “opening up” a previously monogamous relationship or managing established connections, ENM counseling provides targeted strategies for success:

Strengthening Communication and Boundaries

“Opening Up” Struggles: Navigating the initial transition from monogamy, managing fears of loss, and renegotiating core relationship agreements.
Boundary Setting: Defining realistic, practical, emotional, and sexual boundaries that respect all parties and ensure safety.
Effective Scheduling: Managing time, attention, and energy across multiple partners or dynamics (e.g., Vees, Quads, Triads, Polycules).
Processing Disagreements: Handling conflict or breaches of trust without resorting to monogamy-centric assumptions.

Managing Complex Emotions

Compersion vs. Jealousy: Working through feelings of jealousy and insecurity, and cultivating genuine joy (compersion) for a partner’s other connections.
Relationship Hierarchy & Fairness: Addressing issues of privilege, power, and perceived inequality among partners.
Coming Out & Stigma: Navigating societal judgment, family misunderstandings, and finding support in an often-mononormative world.
“New Relationship Energy” (NRE) Management: Integrating excitement from new connections without destabilizing existing primary partnerships.

The Therapeutic Approach

I am an integrative therapist who draws from multiple evidence-based modalities as needed. I utilize a compassionate and collaborative approach, and in this focus, I draw primarily from these systemic and attachment-focused approaches that respect the inherent complexity of non-monogamous relationships:

Systemic MFT Lens: We view the entire relationship network as a system, helping each individual understand their role and impact on the security of the whole.
Attachment Theory: We help clients identify unmet needs and emotional triggers (especially those related to abandonment or fear of replacement), and build tools to seek secure connection rather than rely on control or avoidance.
Psychoeducation: Providing clear, actionable frameworks for discussions around consent, safety, emotional labor, and sexual health within multiple partnerships.

The result is deeper intimacy, stronger resilience, and clarity on how to maintain sustainable, ethical, and joyful non-monogamous relationships.

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You deserve support that truly understands your unique relationship landscape. If you are seeking to reduce conflict, strengthen agreements, or simply find clarity in your non-monogamous life, specialized therapy can make all the difference.

Note on AMFT Status: Andrew Robertson is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT #158068) under the supervision of Melissa Volchock, LMFT #120203. This supervised status ensures you receive high-quality, ethically sound, and accountable therapeutic care.